There was a young  boy named Faris with a very bad temper. When his mother called him to get up  for school in the morning he would yell at her, "I'm up, leave me alone!"  even though he had just opened his eyes.  
                        If he wanted  spaghetti when his mother made macaroni and cheese, he would get mad at her for  not asking him before cooking.  
                        When his little  sister accidentally touched his toys he would yell at her always. He hated it  when someone touched his stuff, especially his sister.  
                        When his friend  missed the ball in a soccer game and their team lost, he yelled really bad  words and his friend decided not to be friends with him anymore. Well, all it was  his friend's fault anyway, and who needs friends! 
                        His father was a  sailor and left home often to sail on ships around the world. He wasn't home a  lot. One day, his father came home from a long trip while Faris was working on  a model ship on the table.  
                        His father roared  out "Asalam alaikum, I'm home!" and his mother and little sister came  running happily from the back rooms to greet him. A gust of wind from the open  door blew down the newly glued mast of Faris's model ship. Faris screamed in  rage. "Shut that door! You just ruined my model!"  
                        Faris's father,  mother, and little sister stared at him in shock. Everyone stayed away from Faris  for a while, while Faris's father had coffee and talked with his wife and  daughter. There was lots of news of the family to catch up on.  
                        Then, when Faris's  mother went to start supper, Faris's father called him out to the storage shed  in the back yard. 
                        "Faris, see  these nails? See this hammer? I want you to take a nail to the back fence and  hammer it in, for getting mad about the breeze disturbing your model earlier  today. And from now on, I want you to pound in a nail each time you get  angry." 
                        Faris didn't  understand why he should hammer a nail, but he did as his father ordered. It  was hard to hit the nail square on the head, and once he hit his finger instead  of the nail. He got mad at the hammer and threw it across the yard. Faris's  father made him nail in another nail, for throwing the hammer in rage. 
                        The next morning, Faris  was almost late to school because he had to hammer in 5 nails for yelling at  his mother, father, and sister for 5 different reasons before breakfast. By the  end of the day he had hammered in 37 nails, and he was pretty tired of  hammering. He was getting better about not hitting his fingers though. 
                        Day by day Faris  hammered nails. Why did his father insist on it? Looking at the fence, with its  many nails, Faris was embarrassed by all the proof of his bad deeds.  
                        Some of the kids  from school knew about the fence, because he accidentally told them. They  called it the "Mad Fence". They asked many times to come and see it  but Faris wouldn't show it to them. But little by little, he found that the  thought of the fence made it easier to hold his tongue and he gradually began  to yell less often, and when he yelled, he was able to stop more quickly. 
                        Then, one evening,  he was building a block castle and his sister, who had come over to watch,  dropped her stuffed bunny on the blocks, making the whole thing come down. Faris  stood up quickly, took a big breath to yell, and, instead of saying something  mad, suddenly burst out, "OK, I'll get a nail!"  
                        His father came out  to the fence as Faris pounded in the new nail. They talked about how he was  pounding in fewer nails now. He had made great progress. He was even starting to  have some friends again. Friends were nice to have! That was slow going though,  because they remembered how mad he used to get and didn't trust him yet.  
                        "I'm glad I  don't have to pound so many nails anymore, Dad. Seeing all the nails in the  fence is ugly." Then his father suggested that Faris could remove a nail  each day that he went all day without losing his temper. Day by day Faris  looked forward to removing a nail from the fence before Isha prayer. It was  often difficult to pull them out and he had to struggle, but it felt good to  remove the signs of his bad deeds.  
                        Finally, the day  came when he removed the last nail. He called his family to witness the great  event. He felt very proud.  
                        His mother was so happy;  she kissed him and promised to make his favorite dessert for after supper. 
                        His father,  however, said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the  fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they  leave a scar just like this. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It  won't matter how many times you say, "I'm sorry". The wound is still  there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one." 
                        The family stared  at the fence solemnly. It was a witness of Faris's battle with himself. Then  his father hugged him and said, "May you grow to be a strong man, Son.  
                        The Prophet, peace be upon  him, said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes people by his  strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."                                      |